I’ve been diving into online dating websites and apps for years. You name it: Zoosk, Match.com, OkCupid, Tinder, Hater, Coffee Meets Bagel, Happn, Badoo, Bumble. I’ve tried them all and narrowed it down to my top 3 (or sometimes 5) most effective ones.
The goal is to meet guys and see where it leads. I’m a sucker for actual mingling and a pro at online texting. Many connections end after a few texts, some send unsolicited pics, a few I meet offline, some I keep in touch with lightly, and only a few become good friends.
I find it hard to believe in love at first sight. I believe anything can happen, and maintaining a relationship (whatever that is) can lead to something. So, I’m chill about it. It’s a fun activity for me.
Earlier this year, 2018, was really tough for me due to some personal issues, and it really bothered me emotionally. I stumbled upon a guy on the Hater app (where you match with someone who shares your dislikes), and I liked the attention he gave me.
He claimed to be a US Army soldier working in Afghanistan. I probably fell for his profile because my grandpa was in the army during WWII, and I loved him so much. Besides, this guy was good-looking to me, and I don’t know, soldiers are awesome (maybe because I love watching war movies/series like Band of Brothers, for example).
Long story short, we chatted, and I found his online presence very soothing. He told me about life at the base camp, what he was doing, a hi from his general and soldier mates, etc. Vice versa, I shared some stories about my grandparents, the issues I was going through, and other stuff (can’t tell you much and…I also forgot!) for a straight 45 days.
Until one day, he suddenly changed the topic to losing his wallet and asked for a money wire.
I immediately googled “US Army love scam” and found plenty of sources. I asked him about the situation, and like someone accused of doing something improper, he got angry. So, at one point, I told him that I couldn’t send him the money (knowing he was a scammer, and also because I didn’t have and didn’t want to send the money, of course), and we slowly ended our chat for good.
Good for me and also good for him because he spent 45 days with no result.
Despite all the suspicions I had from the beginning and the unusual signs that kept showing, I have no regrets about spending 45 days talking to him. In fact, the conversation was really good during a tough time for me. Honestly, ‘his’ presence was one of the reasons I wanted to wake up in the morning. So, that’s one good lesson learned that ended well too.
Oh, he mentioned that he was from Seville. That’s typical for a scammer. They usually claim mixed backgrounds, which explains their broken English. Last April, I went to Spain and purposefully visited Seville for a hidden mission (besides it being a beautiful place!) – see pictures here!
Shared with him that I visited “his birth city”:
“Hey, I’m in Seville. Your city is beautiful!”
By the way, how and where can I find this guy? I’m dying to meet him and tell him what has happened between me and his fake profile.
Here’s to more unique (love) experiences! 🙂
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